What are some psychological life hacks you can do to give you an advantage in situations?

  1. If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you. It doesn’t always happen the first time, but it will definitely happen next time.

  2. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep eye contact they will usually continue talking.

  3. The moment your alarm wakes you up, immediately react by sitting up, pump your fists and shout “YEAH!”

  4. If you just met someone and don’t know what to talk about, remember the FORD system :

    Family
    Occupation
    Recreation
    Dreams

  5. Avoid the sidewalk shuffle by looking intently over the person’s shoulder, or between people’s heads in a group. Your gaze shows them where you’re going. They’ll drift toward the opposing side / create a gap to avoid you.

  6. I remember the last time this thread showed up, someone posted that if you ask someone to do you a small favour, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because they did that favour, they therefore must like you.

    After all, why would they help someone they disliked?

    I don’t have a source unfortunately, but I believe the original comment did if anyone can find the previous thread.

  7. Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first.

  8. Demonstrate value

    Engage physically

    Nurture dependence

    Neglect emotionally

    Inspire hope

    Seperate entirely

  9. Pay attention to people’s feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.

    You should check out Carol Kinsey Goman’s research on these types of things in the workplace.

  10. Don’t get physically pissed off at inanimate objects.

  11. People have a certain image of themselves and will fight tooth and nail to cling to it. Use this information wisely.

  12. The physical affects of stress (increased breathing rate, heart rate ect) mirror identically the physical affects of courage. So when your feeling stress from any situation immediately reframe it : your body is getting ready to do courage, it’s Not feeling stress..

  13. after a person breaks up with someone, they are at their most vulnerable state for manipulation because of the flood of emotions. This could be used for the good or evil purposes.

  14. You don’t have to, you get to.

  15. I currently work for the Federal government, and used to work in a high profile office, which reported directly to parliament. After years surrounded by important people, Media coverage and generally feeling way over my head, here are a few things I learned along the way;

    • Fake it till you make it; confidence is more important than knowledge.

    • Don’t be intimidated by anyone, everyone is playing a role and wearing a mask.

    • Don’t be afraid to ask questions; it makes you look interested, and you will learn something. Anything can be learnt if you put the effort in. Everything anyone knows, they learned along the way. Everyone, even the president. Ask open ended questions to move conversations along. Learn the difference between open and closed questions.

    • Along the same line, learn to argue for and against a variety of topics. If you can do this, you can take any position on any matter. Being able to argue a point is the basis of persuasion and learning.

    • When you are having a conversation, use open body posture. Learn the difference between open and closed body language. When you feel uncomfortable, mirror the other person’s body language.

    • Learn how to paraphrase and summarize, to ensure understanding and avoid mis-communications. Along the same line, if you are going to use a telephone, record yourself talking. Are you difficult to understand? Do you talk fast? Etc. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person.

    • Knowledge is power. Don’t just learn how to do your job, learn why it has to be done a certain way. Improve on it if you can. Demonstrate your knowledge to your bosses, it will get you noticed.

    • Go to your managers with solutions, instead of problems. Make their job easier, learn how they work, and then ride their coattails up the ladder.

    • Your attitude is everything. Learn how to deal with stress without changing your behavior. Doing a high stress job is one thing, doing it while making it seem seemless is another. This is also why knowledge is important – the more you know, the more confident you become, and the better you look.

    • Learn Etiquette. It might seem stupid, but it is the basis of common business courtesy, and it DOES make a difference.

    Good luck!